Control is the Cancer
Embracing our forgotten selves
Given some incredible miracles that have occurred with clients, I’ve been pondering a lot about cancer.
When we attach to a particular identity of who we believe we need to be and we deny aspects of our true nature, this is cancerous.
What we deny within ourselves is where the cancer lives.
Control therefore is the actual cancer.
Sometimes the consequences of that denial will come in the form of the disease called cancer, and other times in the distorted health of our self-esteem which then has implications on the rest of our lives.
In the form of the disease called cancer….
I have witnessed total resolution from ‘breast’ cancer when awareness came of attachment to her previous A type, perfectionist, control identity. She then stepped back from that identity and chose to be ‘nourished’ from her more feminine essence, just like a baby is from the breast. She allowed herself to be guided by her intuition which led her to ‘receiving’ her perfect support team. She stepped back from her family business and painted and wrote poetry instead, and that created time for acupuncture and other healing modalites. Not only did this contribute to her healing, but the business also received $7M increase in revenue each month for the last few months. Creating more by stepping back is not what we think happens when we loosen the grip on our ‘achiever’ identity.
The connection between ‘breast’ cancer and what she denied within herself is where the cancer lived. The resolution to ‘breast’ cancer was found by embracing her forgotten feminine nature.
I have seen total resolution from ‘stomach’ cancer - the solar plexus chakra, the energy place of power and generosity. The place where control of self, particularly of the vulnerable self takes place. But when he turned towards the precious connective nature of his humanity, and he didn’t resign his fate to his first doctor’s dim prognosis, this was a vulnerable decision. He found a different quality of power here, and thus gave himself a different quality of support. Some of that meant facing into past buried hurts, and no longer putting a lid on the more tender parts of himself. And thus the need to control became redundant, and so too did the physical disease of stomach cancer.
The connection between ‘stomach’ cancer and what he denied within himself is where the cancer lived. The resolution to ‘stomach’ cancer was found by embracing a different form of power - a power that didn’t roll over ‘just because the doctor said’ which was vulnerable in itself and a power found in his tenderness and generous heart.
I have seen impending prostatectomy surgery be delayed, no longer seen as urgent when attachment to the identity of a virile man in the world was released, and the stepping into a more heart lead, connected and connective way of being was seen for the value it is in his current life.
The connection between ‘prostate’ cancer and an identity he’d been attached to, when seen and offered growth through a renewed, more whole sense of self had instant and immediate implications in the form of his now delayed surgery.
I have seen cancer behind the ‘eye’ resolve itself - the intuitive centre, the place of seeing beyond the rules and beliefs systems of the world, when that seeing became embraced and lived from. And I have seen positive results when those results should have been concerning in the ‘liver’ - again in the solar plexus, the centre of power and generosity when he faced into his vulnerability and embraced his desire to share with others a life of love, freedom and connection.
The connection between ‘eye’ and ‘liver’ cancer speak to a shifting identity where his power had lived - mainly in his base chakra, and as he re-focussed his power to have the freedom to connect with his heart, intuition, communication and connection with the divine and not only with himself, but others, his results continue to defy the odds in a very positive way.
I have been pondering these metaphysical connections of where the cancer has formed and what the cancer is wanting to tell us about control and denial of self.
I’ve felt so much gratitude at the idea that ultimately the cancer is wanting to remind us of who we are and to embrace this forgotten self.
How absolutely beautiful.
And another reminder.
The consequence of control does not always come in the form of the disease called cancer.
It comes in other forms - loss, separation, disconnection, drama, chaos, crisis, politics, even abuse in the health of our relationships with partners, children, other family members, friends and colleagues, in the health of our leadership in our careers and businesses and in the health of our financial universe.
I have a strong knowing that because these people are embracing their forgotten selves, regret will have no place in their future.
Do you have the courage to face into this contemplation of who and what you maybe controlling?
Do you have the courage to face into the identity that you’ve been attached to that has created a denial of other aspects of who you are?
Do you have the courage to embrace your forgotten self?
I hope my contemplations and gratitude for what I’m witnessing places a healing dent in your inner and outer world.
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