Have You Disconnected From Your Powerful Self?
Words have power
How do you go from $20M months for four consecutive months (a 50% increase in revenue) to sales radically declining in the fifth month with no external changes forced upon you?
One word.
Fear.
How are you told that your stage 4 cancer is largely incurable and go into radical remission three months later?
Several words.
Personal agency, unconditional self-responsibility, the most perfect support….
But the one word that is relevant to this article is -
Faith.
Both experiences happened to the same woman I’m coaching.
Her faith in her ability to self-heal not only impacted her health, but had positive ripples into her business and interestingly, during a time when she and her husband stepped back from their business.
But in the fifth month (now) listings dramatically reduced.
We spoke yesterday and I said that I had a strong feeling I knew why. I suggested we timeline this out.
Five weeks ago she went for her regular health check up yet it was a junior oncologist who saw her. Even though she has zero cancer in her body, the oncologist said something to the effect that she’d always have cancer in her life. This pulled the wool from under her rug.
Bye bye faith.
Enter fear.
Strong. Overtaking. Unsteady. Now hostage to his words.
About four weeks worth.
It was an extraordinary stressful four weeks, and yet it gifted such a huge lesson.
In this world of relativity and contrast, you can’t have faith without fear. As she embodied this premise, with allowing and patience, she became free again.
Back to the timeline. Guess when the listings slowed down?
Five weeks ago.
Just as faith in her ability to self-heal had positive ripples into her business, fear around her health leaked into the business and listings dramatically slowed down.
Faith and fear or any emotional state of being are not contained silos that impact their immediate environment only. They spill out. Quantum physics tells us that energy informs matter. An unhappy work environment leaks into the family. An unhappy family life leaks into the work environment. Financial anxiety leaks into health and can be a contributor to autoimmune diseases. The need to control and unworthiness are often major contributors to cancer.
Yesterday, this point about faith and fear was also personally not lost on me.
Judgment is fear’s bestie. Judgment and fear are awesome allies that feed off each other. A dynamic duo that thrive on each others’ very compelling stories.
There was a time when I stood loud and proud on Facebook on the results clients received. Some of those results included women who chose to no longer be on anti-depressant medication. This decision never came from advice from me but rather their own ability to trust themselves and not be fearful of their emotional state of being. Years later these women continue to thrive in their mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
I wrote about this from time to time on Facebook, celebrating their wellness, happiness, renewed purpose-filled lives. And I got slammed. Phone calls, comments and emails from both strangers and friends who told me how irresponsible I was.
Last week during my travels with 90 year old Mum and my 18 year old son, I went for a walk in the forest in Chamonix. Sometimes being away from our regular environment allows us to see ourselves with greater honesty and perspective (one of the reasons I love facilitating retreats overseas). I saw that I’d been cowering on social media. I’d gone under the radar. Those hits that I’d received had impacted me. I’d become embarrassed, shy. I played nice. Now that makes me want to vomit.
How many people did I rob of freedom, happiness, wellness, purpose by choosing to have my tail between my legs? How many people did I turn my back on? I seriously feel heartache when I ponder the consequences of laying low, gun shy.
But no more.
Just like my friend who needed to be reminded about faith through the contrast of fear and the ripples of each, I have been reminded to stand tall in my unapologetic leadership through the contrast of judgment. I remember a time when I didn’t care what people thought of me. That time has returned. Peoples’ opinions are none of my business.
And so I ask you these questions.
Was there a time when you allowed yourself to be derailed, and you don’t know why?
Was there a time when things were going well, and then no longer didn’t, and you don’t know why?
Do you currently feel like you’ve been knocked off your feet, and you don’t know why?
If you resonate with these questions, may this article provide some answers. If those answers evade you, and you’ve got the feeling to source the cause and course adjust back to your powerful self, please reach out.
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