When You Have Outgrown Your Identity and Don’t Even Know It
And the most important question to ask yourself.
As I sat on the couch last night these words were whispered to me. ‘When you have outgrown your identity and don’t even know it, until you do.’ This morning I realised this would be the name of a podcast interview I was about to do. Perfection.
After the interview I was inspired to write this article because this is the predominant conversation I am having right now.
When you have outgrown your identity a shift in identity is coming. Better to know this is occurring so that you can navigate the experience rather than be in the tumble dryer of change. This way you can bring all of your humanity to the table whilst knowing that you’re in the birth canal with an impending arrival date into the next generation of yourself.
These are the symptoms of an impending shift in identity.
Maybe you’ll be able to recognise yourself.
Your focus is everywhere
There’s so much to do but you find it difficult to focus on one thing, or even know what to focus on. Your energy is frenetic, the personification of someone who stutters. Nothing gets completed or if it does, the energy is racy setting up mistakes and drama. Presence and peace are absent.
You feel anxious for no apparent reason
Anxiety is your unwelcome guest and it randomly hits with no reasonable explanation. Whilst you’re having lunch, at shopping centres, with a client, a family gathering. And you’re anxious about being anxious which makes things worse. Because anxiety is here it is very difficult to live and lead from presence.
Nothing you do, despite all your efforts is moving the needle
You desire to move, to create, to achieve greater results. That desire is strong. You know you deserve it but no matter what you do, very little or nothing is shifting. You try this way and that way and you realise that it’s ‘same shit different wrapper’ type decision and action taking. You’re defining your current reality as failure.
You feel that you’ve lost your mojo
You’ve seen and known yourself to be confident, strong, driven, on-purpose and a savvy and powerful creator who’s achieved greater results and impact than you had expected. You want to get back to that person but you can’t find them. That person feels illusory, uncatchable, nowhere to be seen and you don’t know who you are. Self-doubt and comparison are very present instead.
Chaos and drama are here
This is not necessarily the precursor for everyone who is on the doorstep of an identity shift, but if it is it comes in the form of stresses in business, relationships, finances and health. If you haven’t got with the program that change is here, conflict in relationships, strains in business, constricted cashflow, unexpected bills and taxes and a sense of un-wellness or an unwanted diagnosis arrive to really rattle things up.
As I said before, when you can see your current reality for what it is - that you’ve outgrown an identity and the next generation of who you are to become is seeking you, you can travel that road with a whole lot more grace than being victim and feeling powerless.
And if you saw that these winds of change are here to bring you into a new era of abundance and wealth in all ways, wouldn’t you surrender into it?
By nature of this article this is what I am intending to catalyse.
The most powerful question you can ask yourself
‘What do I have energy for and what has energy for me?’
Inherent in this question is ‘what do I no longer have energy for and what no longer has energy for me?’
If you meditate on these questions you will for sure step onto the path of what is to be shed and what is to be your new experience.
And yes there are places you’ll need to go.
You’ll need to have more freedom for who you are to become and so
You’ll need to go into the shadowy parts of yourself.
You’ll need to enter the caves you fear.
You’ll need to listen - a lot.
You’ll need to let go of any identities you’d attached yourself to.
You’ll need to see that everything had to happen up until this point for your expected arrival
You can't become the next generation of you with the same level of freedom that has brought you into the generation of who you have already been.
You have to have more freedom so that you can enter this next generation of who you are to become.
And the consequence will be that you’ll be lit with a creative agency you’ve not met before, and it will make going through that birth canal all worth it. I promise.
Gisele
If you’d like to watch the video podcast that speaks to this article, go to episode 127 of The Intuitive Pull Podcast on Apple Podcasts ‘The Path Into Your New Era of Abundance & Wealth’ or on Youtube
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