When You Work Against Yourself

And don't even know it.

It’s my 55th birthday today and if you’re feeling that change is in the air, here is my gift to you.

The identity that we once were is changing. How we have defined who we are and the what and how we have done things is shifting. As I said in the previous article we are outgrowing our identity and on the brink of the next generation of ourselves.

Some of us know they’re in the birth canal and have accepted the symptoms of lack of focus , frustration, anxiety, nothing moving the needle and mojo MIA. And others who aren’t aware of this impending change are in the tumble dryer of chaos and drama.

But here’s the thing I really want to speak to in this article.

I spoke to someone yesterday who is not the person she was yesterday. She’s different. She has a fortitude to stand for nothing but love in her business very much grown through the muscle of conviction she’s trained in her personal life. And now this fortitude wants to course through her work. But instead of seeing this, she’s seeing stagnancy. The reverse of what she expected.

If you have met the next generation of yourself, if you’re feeling its strength, its purpose, showing up in the way you did in your previous identity is like putting the car in reverse.

If people have come to you through referrals only, and you expect this continue in the next generation of yourself, you haven’t embraced the full extent of your becoming.

If people have come to you by what you have written on social media, and you expect this continue in the next generation of yourself, you haven’t embraced the full extent of your becoming.

I’ve just given examples in the context of business. Now let me give you an example in the context of health.

Amongst the people I coach, I have the privilege of coaching people who have cancer. They are referred to me by Integrative Doctor Carol Haddad. If people who have cancer wish to become well, and they only address their condition from a medical perspective, they too haven’t embraced the full extent of their becoming.

How can we embody the next generation of ourselves by showing up in our former identity?

So, how to move forward then?

Go meet the shadowy parts of yourself.

Go enter the caves you have feared.

Let go and shed.

Become more free.

Then listen - a lot.

And be shown a fuller, more authentic and self-expressed version of you.

Where it’s about business, health, relationship or any other subject matter, the message here, my gift to you - is about SELF EXPRESSION. It’s about how you show up in the world. How you show up with yourself, with others, in your leadership, in your health, in your marketing, in your relationships, in your finances, in your creativity, in your communication, in your lifestyle.

What does self expression look like in this next generation of you?

A super question to ask yourself is this.

What do I have energy for and what has energy for me?

And conversely, what do I no longer have energy for and what no longer has energy for me?

The next generation of your self-expression will show itself by meditating, over and over again, on these questions. You’ll be called, you’ll be moved and your desires will be switched on, and then will be the moment that you’ll be lit with a creative agency of self-expression that you’ve not met before. And if you commit and surrender into this creative agency, magic and momentum will be your reality.

Lots of love to you,

Gisele